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DISCUSSION:
- Share two true statements and one false statement about yourself and have the room guess which one is false.
- Share your notes from the teaching, what impacted you? Was there a moment you sensed the Holy Spirit?
2 SAMUEL 13:1-24
13 Now David’s son Absalom had a beautiful sister named Tamar. And Amnon, her half brother, fell desperately in love with her. 2 Amnon became so obsessed with Tamar that he became ill. She was a virgin, and Amnon thought he could never have her.
3 But Amnon had a very crafty friend—his cousin Jonadab. He was the son of David’s brother Shimea.[a] 4 One day Jonadab said to Amnon, “What’s the trouble? Why should the son of a king look so dejected morning after morning?”
So Amnon told him, “I am in love with Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister.”
5 “Well,” Jonadab said, “I’ll tell you what to do. Go back to bed and pretend you are ill. When your father comes to see you, ask him to let Tamar come and prepare some food for you. Tell him you’ll feel better if she prepares it as you watch and feeds you with her own hands.”
6 So Amnon lay down and pretended to be sick. And when the king came to see him, Amnon asked him, “Please let my sister Tamar come and cook my favorite dish[b] as I watch. Then I can eat it from her own hands.” 7 So David agreed and sent Tamar to Amnon’s house to prepare some food for him.
8 When Tamar arrived at Amnon’s house, she went to the place where he was lying down so he could watch her mix some dough. Then she baked his favorite dish for him. 9 But when she set the serving tray before him, he refused to eat. “Everyone get out of here,” Amnon told his servants. So they all left.
10 Then he said to Tamar, “Now bring the food into my bedroom and feed it to me here.” So Tamar took his favorite dish to him. 11 But as she was feeding him, he grabbed her and demanded, “Come to bed with me, my darling sister.”
12 “No, my brother!” she cried. “Don’t be foolish! Don’t do this to me! Such wicked things aren’t done in Israel. 13 Where could I go in my shame? And you would be called one of the greatest fools in Israel. Please, just speak to the king about it, and he will let you marry me.”
14 But Amnon wouldn’t listen to her, and since he was stronger than she was, he raped her. 15 Then suddenly Amnon’s love turned to hate, and he hated her even more than he had loved her. “Get out of here!” he snarled at her.
16 “No, no!” Tamar cried. “Sending me away now is worse than what you’ve already done to me.”
But Amnon wouldn’t listen to her. 17 He shouted for his servant and demanded, “Throw this woman out, and lock the door behind her!”
18 So the servant put her out and locked the door behind her. She was wearing a long, beautiful robe,[c] as was the custom in those days for the king’s virgin daughters. 19 But now Tamar tore her robe and put ashes on her head. And then, with her face in her hands, she went away crying.
20 Her brother Absalom saw her and asked, “Is it true that Amnon has been with you? Well, my sister, keep quiet for now, since he’s your brother. Don’t you worry about it.” So Tamar lived as a desolate woman in her brother Absalom’s house.
21 When King David heard what had happened, he was very angry.[d] 22 And though Absalom never spoke to Amnon about this, he hated Amnon deeply because of what he had done to his sister.
Absalom’s Revenge on Amnon
23 Two years later, when Absalom’s sheep were being sheared at Baal-hazor near Ephraim, Absalom invited all the king’s sons to come to a feast.24 He went to the king and said, “My sheep-shearers are now at work. Would the king and his servants please come to celebrate the occasion with me?”
Honesty (Pg 403 of The Life Recovery Bible)
When past injustices have caused us pain, we often seek to bury them in the deep recesses of our mind. Being honest with ourselves this way, however, almost always allows pain from the past to translate into mistakes and suffering in the future. We often become powerless against the strength of our inner turmoil. We lose control of the very things we have tried to hide.
Absalom became powerless against his hatred and rage. They ultimately controlled his life to the point that he fought to overthrow his own father’s rule. He was outraged when his half brother raped his sister, Tamar. When King David did nothing to avenge his daughter, Absalom vowed revenge in his heart. He waited until the time was right and murdered the guilty brother. This sequence of abuse, family secrecy, denial, unprocessed feelings, and revenge destroyed Absalom’s relationship with his father. Absalom never forgave David, and he died in a military rebellion against David (2 Samuel 13:1-18:33).
We may use our addictive/compulsive behaviors to distract us from the unresolved pain within us. There are so many strong emotions that we don’t know how to process appropriately, so we simply try to stuff them down inside. Eventually these feelings are expressed in some way. We need to be honest about our past hurts, expesss our feelings, confront the guilty, and work throuh forgiveness. If we try to ignore these hurts, we will be contolled by our explosive hidden emotions.
UNcomplicate it:
Observation Question:
What do you observe about the passages? Take turns sharing from observations from the text or your personal notes from service.
Understanding Question:
- How have the feelings of the past continued to produce suffering in the present?
- What are the challenges in sharing your past hurts, expressing hard feelings, and confronting guilt?
- Is there any unresolved pain that you’re using your addictions/compulsions to distract you from?
Application Question:
What unresolved pain are you going to be honest about and address this week? Why? How?
Before Next Week:
– Pick someone to share next week from their Life Journal to kick off the group discussion.
– Pray for one another in groups
Life Journal Reading Plan:
Day 1: Lamentations 3:1-20
Day 2: Daniel 9: 1-20
Day 3: Matthew 27:11-26
Day 4: Romans 12:3
Day 5: Leviticus 19:11-13
Day 6: Mark 14:32-42
Day 7: 1 Samuel 3:16-18
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